So here it is, as blunt & truthful as it will get... HOMIE/LOVER/FRIEND does not..i repeat.. cant EXIST.
Usher sent countless human beings down the wrong path with "LOVERS & FRIENDS". The concept that a woman and man can coexist no strings attached, is fool's talk. This theory has been tested, and found to be a complete FAILURE. I can count in my head how often I've listened to friends of both genders explain "Why they have a stage 5 clinger" or the pathetic question, "Why wont he/she return my text". For starters, if a man/woman approaches you with great intentions of just being friends, never throw out your apprehension (unless your unattractive to the human race). Its complete B.S. for a man/woman to tell someone who is attractive, "Lets just be friends' ..Try it out, and tell me I'm correct when you get that 'Friendly' 12 am text message.. "Whats up" .. Still don't understand, let me break it down.HOMIE: Homie wants to go to the movies, kick back and gossip and ridicule mutual associate. This Homie can tell you about his/her's future sexual conquests, and ask opinions on how to get rid of the unwanted ones. Homies sit on the phone for hours like the best of friends, not even mentioning the idea of sex happening. The Homie is the perfect sitiuation for any man.. the perks of knowing how a woman thinks without having to deal with her emotionally.
LOVER: Lover is that 2 am text message after you leave the club. HE/SHES my homie, so ..If we do have sex, I wont have to worry about commitment or asking at 7am "SOOO.... what you got planned today" in hopes that they'll exit your bed. The lover already knows what turns you on, because the homie knows the details of your sexual encounters with other men/women.
FRIEND: The friend knows all your insecurities, can tell when you're unhappy, or hurt. The friend cares about your dreams and goals, and would do anything to help you achieve them. HE/SHE might be there when you're sick to do the duties a BF/GF might. The friend has an emotional connection with the HOMIE.. which only grows stronger because of the role played as the LOVER...
SO..Think of it like an acting role.. HE/SHE might be playing all three parts in your life.. with no title, or commitment.. How long do you honestly thing the "Supporting character" will play those parts without wanting to get the Lead?
