::Throw It In The Bag::

"Summer is Gone, and fall & winter bring Fashionable sweaters, Chic Jackets, Trendy Boots, and Gorgeous accessories to match!"

This coming season is all about layers. Whether it's a sassy sweater dress, with cool tights, and ankle boots to match; or an off the shoulder sweatshirt w/leggings and riding boots to match. Fall & winter is all about style!

My resident Shopaholic @Jenaechloe helped me compile a few looks to add to my blog..

Step 1: A summer dress can be all you need to add the first layer to the outfit. Black is always safe, and Trendy!

Step 2: Add a blazer, crop jacket, or shrug to give the dress the fall touch.

Step 3: Add accessories like head bands, ribbons, and rings to give the outfit the finishing touch.

VOILA!

Here are some more fall and winter looks for school, lounging at home, or even a trip to the bar or a date!

::Mood Musick::

:Women Lie Men Lie, Men Lie to Survive:

"Take out a piece of paper, mark all the one's you find yourself nodding your head to". 

         If you can say that he's 50% of all these, Run...Quickly"

Sign Number One: Gut Instinct

Have a funny feeling in your tummy when it comes to him? Did your first instinct tell you to steer clear due to friends recommendations? Well some hypothetical Tums, and if it's still there once they've taken effect, chances are that your body is trying to tell you something

Sign Number Two: His Friends brag about how many girls he has

While this might be terms of fraternal affection in many cases, 

be aware that this is really the truth 9 times 10.

Sign Number Three: You're Not Good Enough For Him

Seriously. This is a very important clue. Feeling that you're not good enough for him means that you feel bad about yourself....Which means he's not right for you relationship wise or sexually.

Sign Number Four: He Has A Lot Of Female Friends - And They're Jealous.

When your with him, and women come up and put their hands on him possessively and give you that little smug look. I don't need to describe that look to you, we all know what that look is, and we've all seen this scene play out at some point even if it was just on the movie screen. If this sort of thing happens when you're out with him, note his reaction..He has many possible interests.

Sign Number 5: He expressly denies being a Hoe or Sexual

In my experience, the men who come straight out (unprovoked) and proclaim that they aren't players, tend to be precisely that. He will announce this the first time he screws up, or senses that you're leery about him or his motives.. Dont ever let a man tell you he dosent love sex, or dosent enjoy the company of many women.

Sign Number 6: He's always slightly disconnected at times

He pays just enough attention to make you crave more, but little enough to make you wonder how interested he really is. This ploy is designed to make you want more - which is what most of you end up doing -- and some of you will go out of your way to get his attention via methods you wouldn't normally lower yourself to. That's exactly what he wants; you crawling on your knees for his attention.

Sign Number 7: He's an expert in bed.

These guys are so good in bed that many women will overlook the crap he pulls, just to get the chance to play house with him. The sex will be so good, and enough to get you semi hooked, that youll find yourself giving him more attention than you ever planned to.

Sign Number 8: 

His communication skills suck.

Unless there's a very good reason, if a man doesn't answer your text/email/phone call within 24 hours, he's playing a game. And the men who deny the truth of that statement by claiming that some men are just too busy...? They're full of shit. If you really like someone, you can find a minute to at least text them. No one is that busy! he's playing games.

Sign Number 9:

He makes you feel like you're overreacting when you're not.

Let me give you an example: He promises to call you back at 8pm, but doesn't contact you until the next day. Why? Because he decided that watch a game with his friends would be more fun. When asked why he couldn't be bothered to let you know, to send you a text at least, he replies by making you feel like you're being clingy or too demanding. Lies all Lies

GoinG Back On Promises..

“We must all suffer from one of two pains: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret. The difference is discipline weighs ounces while regret weighs tons."

Jim Rohn quotes

How come, you have tell yourself on numerous occasions.. "Never Again"?... It seems like the repetitive statement can be compared to a Heroine addict's plea after indulging in another night of use. How can a "Never Again" turn into "Ok, the last time" so easily? Not everyone has the on/off guilt switch.. Mines on the other hand flickers sporadically like an old fluorescent bulb. 

At 23 years old independent and free as i have felt in my whole entire life, I can physically feel myself falling back into old habits. Backwards..right? 

Boredom=Opportunity for Failure

Any way.. I digress... I will be spending more time at home, and my phone will be off more often..

HAPPY SATURDAY!

::EarGasm::

"Chicago is becoming colder every day.. Snow is in the forecast for tonight so why not grab a "Winter Boo" and Cuddle (or more) to this?"

"Have a Baby By Me"

1.Method Man - I'll Be There For You/You're All I Need To Get By

2.Jadakiss - Right By My Side feat


3.Jagged Edge - Let's Get Married


4.Jagged Edge - Put A Little Umph In It


5.Jodeci - Forever My Lady


6.Keith Sweat - Nobody


7.Rome - I Belong To You


8.Jagged Edge - Walked Out Of Heave


9.Jodeci - Feenin'


10.Usher - Nice & Slow


11.Gucci Mane - Spotlight feat Usher


12.Ginuwine - My Whole Life Has Chan


13.Janet Jackson - Anytime


14.Shai - If I Ever Fall In Love


15.SWV - Weak In The Knees


16.Prince - Adore


17.R. Kelly - Bump N' Grind [Old School Mix]


18.Jodeci - Freek'n You


19.Silk - Freak Me


20.R. Kelly - Number 1 feat Keri Hil


21.Tony Toni Tone - Just Me & You


22.Teddy Pendergrass - Love TKO


23.Guy - Let's Chill


24.Tony Toni Tone - Lay Your Head On


25.Tony Toni Tone - Whatever You Wan


26.Ludacris - Slash Waterfalls Remix


27.Robin Thicke - Mrs Sexy


28.Prince - Diamonds & Pearls


29.Zapp & Roger - Computer Love


30.Bootsy Collins - I'd Rather Be With You


31.Raphael Saadiq - Ask Of You


32.Jodeci - Come & Talk To Me


33.Alicia Keys - Unthinkable


34.Debra Laws - Very Special


35.Big Daddy Kane - Very Special fea

WTF are you waiting for? Download!http://www.datpiff.com/DJ_Jon_B_Jodeci_tony_toni_tone_R_Kelly__Have_A.m166417.html

#SHEWANTSTHATOLDTHINGBACK

"She fiends for me nightly

She leans for me

Morning she rush for my touch

This is about LUST"



 

 

 

 

 

 

 

"I only said I didnt care because I was overwhelmed"...

The bond shared between two people intimately can link them to a rollercoaster of emotional highs and lows, with a neverending "Giant drop"

I can atest that the feelings that are mutual between two individuals who share moments of passion can dig deeper into the psyche and heart than a butcher knife..

Emotion & Love mimic fairy tale.. the lesser evil or the issue i'm experiencing..

 

How do you cope with the feeling that you want the Passion, without the commitment.

 

Is it fair to ask someone to forget about you..but in all actuality you havent forgot them ..

especially whenever your eyelids close you catch a glimpse of moment shared in darkness?

 

The yelling, senseless arguements, priorities misplaced, and time commitment seem like a 300lb weight on my back..

 

But when I think of the feelings I shared... the 300lb becomes as meaningless as a feather..

 

Do I stand strong, fighting all implications that the flesh is growing weaker than the mind..

 

Or do i give in to MY FORBIDDEN FRUIT..

"STING SWAG"

*Whispers* ...( Im a closet Rock & Roll Fan)

'Your a Very Sexy Girl Really Hard to Please'

Welcome to the JUNGLE-- Favorite Rock Song...

Blogging... yet again from my school library... watching the buses turn around our new/old terminal..

I've actually grown to like the library. Before the only reason I would even step foot into a Library was to grab so books for reading in solitude, and run out. Now that almost every hour awake is spent in this building of tacky beige and green decor, i've learned to cope. I got 2 phonecalls yesterday, one stating "F your new boyfriend( the library), The other " you cant possibly, stay in there till 12pm every night".. Truth is.. I wouldnt have it any other way. Call it  boring, monotonous, whatever..

graduation is approaching... and the anxiety im feeling could cause me to explode..

After spending years on the same schedule, seeing the same people.. i came to the conclusion ..THE REAL WORLD IS SCARY AS HELL!

"What if all the people you've been with could be in a room together? Would you fill a closet, or an Auditorium?"

Yesterday someone I know posed an interesting question. Its interesting in the sense that, if you had to invite all your partners to a room, how big would the room need to be to accomondate them? How many people could people were relationships, friends, or maybe hidden skeletons.

I'd like to believe in a perfect world that the "COUNT ON TWO HANDS" still meant something to my age group. Sadly, it means as much as George Bush's word of honor. With sex becoming a more popular past time than Xbox Live, its easy to see how a young man or ladies "closet "could grow into a "Lecture Hall" full of random faces.

The even more disturbing ideal in this is, with the emergence of sexual freedom amongst same sex, six degrees of seperation could literally be tremendous in your "Sex Room" .

Im no saint, yet there has to be a STOP button so to speak when deciding if a new partner every night is fun & Exciting, opposed to a possible death sentence...

So what should you do when you find out your Significant other can fill a stadium full of partners??

A.) you can run like hell in a judgemental frenzy, and possibly miss out on your opportunity to be the last addition to his/her room

B.) Rationalize it!

Heres some math:

(For Example)

26  year old male

Lost his virginity at 16 years of age..

Has 2 New Partners Every month

12 months in a year

10 years of sexual experience....

*Calculates*

 240 Partners over span of 10 years!

Sounds disgusting.. but if you think about it.. we all know men who have way more than only 2 new partners a month.. so imagine those numbers...

Final Thoughts: It can be a hard pill to swallow , looking into a room and noticing a sea of faces. It would be perfect to peer into your boyfriends room, and see only two young ladies seated.. Yet, we dont live in a perfect world. Follow your intuition regarding the situation, never be so quick to judge..

AND WRAP IT UP! that way all future complaints were at your own free will!

Lord Where art Thou?

Phaedra..Is that you???

*EarGasm*

Here are some of my Favorite New Tracks of the week ...
 Its a mixture between Hip Hop & R&B,
Im Schizo at Times :-)

This Mixtape is DOPE!  Some including Jadakiss, Kanye West, Rick Ross, Red Cafe Just to name a few .. Get it before the rado makes them  "Uncool"

(Fave Tracks)

1. Rick Ross - "Gucci Time Remix"

2. Wale- "Black & Yellow Remix"

3. Sean Garrett ft Ludacris, Twista Busta Rhymes -

" She Geeked Remix"



http://www.datpiff.com/Dj_SymphonyHosted_By_Raekwon_The_Chef__Certified.m165133.html

:::::FOLLOW ME LIKE TWITTER::::

Happy Saturday! up early in bed, after a night of no action lol. So why not blog? ANYONE that knows me can atest that im obsessed with twitter. I see it as an outlet to express myself. Most importantly my family has taken over my FB, and if I express myself there, there would be a family meeting about me.. seriously. So..like myself alot of people have migrated to the twittersphere, which has caused some problems.. therefore ive decided to post some tips, rules, pet peeves, and ettiquette when using twitter.. (totally my opinion like it or hate it)


1. Dont take time to lurk my protected account add me, then unfollow me the next day. All the while believing i wont block & unfollow you. Seriously, who cares if you have more friends than your following..your NOT KANYE!
2. When i see you in person or on campus, dont recant a tweet i posted 3 days ago, and ask why? dude, its twitter, and i was probably intoxicated.
3.REFRAIN from qouting every young money, wayne, drake quote in existence..tweets should be original.
4. if you change your avatar 3 times a day like FB #killyoself ( #shoutout to @rocafella11 )
5. Dont RT Every compliment you get...we dont care
6. HELL no.. i dont wanna be apart of #teamwhogivesafuck ..are u gonna pay me? no.. #ithoughtso
7. Dont add a # in front of stupid crap..like" im gonna eat some #cereal"..dumb ass
8. if u DM ME party promotions or beg me to download your 50 tyson-esque mixtape..ill spam u!
8. If you begged to follow me... and i declined 4 times.. GET THE POINT
9. If u RT Me, reply to me on twitter but act brand new in person.. i talk about u really bad, and will #subtweet u.
10. Finally, dont tweet " i love head" when your supposed to be at work..and your bf/gf raises hell and dont understand why.. twitter has evolved to the new FB Of relationship ruin..and your and idiot!

so basicallly these are some things that tick me off..what are yours???

oh..yea *in chris brown voice* FOLLLLOWW MEE! @Toilaflare

::Guranteed Laughs::: November 5th 2010

DUE DATE Trailer - ARTISTdirect Music

The S.E.X. Game

The S.E.X. Game

(Why casual sex never works)

 "In my opinion The Sex Game system is broken. No Eff that, it never really worked to begin with. I can get understand one night stands and promiscuity, – but Sex buddies, is the worst thing that never worked..."- Toi



So what exactly is the S.E.X Game? My definition of this is most accurately.. " The intermingling of 2 single people sexually, that can result in either longevity, or the worst possible emotional DRAMA". I refer to it as a GAME, in the sense that its a Win/ Lose situation. There will NEVER be two winners, not humanly possible. Someone ends up in the losers seat. Men always state the the woman is " Emotional, clingy, and needy" When in actuality this is not always the cast.. in this Century we live in many men can atest that Women have did a 360 role reversal leaving them CONFUSED. The Man or the woman can turn the "Sex Buddy" Situation into a Game instead of an AGREEMENT. AND THAT.. is where the problem occurs.

So in this S.E.X. Game the WINNER often is the person plays the icy, unavailable or uninterested role while the LOSER does the calling, or suggestions of SEX rendevous. A SEX buddy situation work if both parties were actually icy and detached? Too bad it never does..  

A common scenario for the LOSER might be.. "Even though I barely saw him, besides SEX  he was always on my mind. It grew into an obsession. Every move of mine was calculated and it seemed his was too, but he was WINNING. It was a constant game of one-upping each other. And even though THE SEX WAS close and emotional... the relationship was just in my head.

:::::HERE ARE SOME RULES TO LIVE BY for a 50% chance of Success::::

GUYS

1 Never bring her home

2. Never let her know where you stay
3. Never let your feelings get in the way ,or ever express them
4 No jealousy… if you begin to get jealous you are getting too close. Stop before you get hurt.
5. MOST IMPORTANTLY:  Find a WHORE.. good girls always fall for you...

GIRLS



1.Never bring him home

2. Never introduce him to your friends
3.Leave when u find yourself thnking about him during the day , Never spend the night.
4.Always get him to wear a condom
5.Must not be within 2 degrees of your network of people you know




"Anonymous sex does not translate into continuous sex.. But, if you want it to then you better start talking.... cause getting into that icy-hot guessing game is not known for pretty endings.



:::Just in case you missed it:::

This Summer:::::: I announced the APOCOLYPSE of HIP HOP.....

Dear Nicki Minaj (Harajuku Barbie, Ms Lewinsky, ninja? Or the 50 other aliases you have created to hide the fact you’re a fake),




Please go away….



When I first came across your quirky videos on You tube I gave you minimal yet some credit for basically remaking every Lil Kim, Biggie song..Borderline HORRIBLY. You were a cute imitation, wasn’t really sure how far your “bump curl church bang” lacefront would get you in the industry but hey…We can all dream right? Fast forward 2009 here you are in all your silicone glory! Boobs, hips, a pumped up behind and the bad lacefront to match. Your lyrical style transformed from raw Brooklyn to Lil Wayne’s leftover 16 bars and creepy ramblings. You have choice subliminal words for every female rapper in the game, with only a few mix tapes to boast your superiority. Besides the legion of brainwashed teen “Barbie’s, and “Ken dolls” us educated hip hop fans have a few valid questions to ask since your are the new self proclaimed “Baddest B**tch.”





1. Why does your whole wardrobe consist of latex? Tacky corsets only dared to be worn by sunset strip prostitutes are your claim to fame. You don’t own pants? Leggings for every day of the week….I bet u have a tab for vagisil at Walmart *kanye shrug*



2. Are you really Bisexual? The charisma between you and Usher’s lead girl was minimal. Oprah and Stedmans “sex room” has more chemistry. Besides letting the bald headed beast crotch hump you on “massive attack”…Something’s telling me this gimmick isn’t a personal choice.



3. When will you admit that your “funny style of rap” is really to hide your obvious learning disorder. Your “ YABBA DABBA DOOING” and metaphor styles are remedial. Im actually waiting for you to rap humpty dumpty on your next Young money track. Oh yea please don’t blame Ol Dirty Bastard for your inspiration again..EVER. R.I.P



4. Did you really “penny, nickel, dime, coin ” the phrase “Barbie” last time I checked Mattel did..You better hope the “man” don’t sue that ass..



5. Will you take responsibility for the fact that you’re the worst thing for young black girls since “unemployment checks were discovered by lazy people”… ATTENTION your army of “Barbz” are failing 5th grade.



6. The BIG question: entertain us with this one.. How does your ass shape shift? Do you think the truth will surprise us that much? *sighs* Oh well Tyra’s been lying for 15 years so I guess you’re on the right track



So Miss Minaj… To sum it all up. All new artists go through public scrutiny and your buffoonery is a magnet to it. It’s unfair to self proclaim yourself the “Baddest Bitch” when you don’t even have one album to show for all your preforming, and media blunders. Sneak dissing legends, and upcoming free style rappers won’t get you anywhere but modeling akademiks clothing in XXL..



Nicki..boo.. Step your cookies up! Even “bum bitches” pay their car notes… *coughs* pink Lambo



Sincerely,

Toi

When Public Sympathy Runs Dry

  "Life's real failure is when you do not realize how close you were to success when you gave up.”- Unknown

Rapper T.I. has been in the news yet again, along with his new Bride to be Tameka "Tiny" Cottle. The latest charges were related to Drug Possession, with the major dilemma being that the two have criminal charges already lingering. T.I. just returned home from a year long stint in jail, and not even months later is facing jail time, along with the mother of his "Tribe" a children (PUN INTENDED) . Honestly, When I first became of informed of this mess I was on my way to work like any other Hard Working American. The initial thought in my mind was " How dumb to you have to be, to be a felon and still get caught so easily.!!" T.I. went as far  as to create a television show following his success in inspiring youth, and even nationwide community service.. to say what? IM STILL A CRIMINAL?

I can relate this situation to some personal issues, that myself and I believe many others of you have dealt with. T.I. is the person in your life that continues to screw things up, leave you in suspense with promises for change, and rehab.. When in actuality they are so addicted to failing you, that they commit the same offenses repeatedly. There is no easy way to let someone go who you care about, or that dosent put their all in " Staying out of a mental Jail" .. that 9/10 they put themselves in. So the question is.. when DO YOU STOP BAILING THEM OUT? 

*TOSSES GET OUT OF JAIL FREE CARDS IN GARBAGE*

Better Late than Never

So, I haven't Blogged since August 4, 2009 Lol.. Long time but sooner than later right? Im in the final stretch at school and I can officially say that I have senioritis. The decision to change majors my Junior year, proved to be idiotic, but the implications for future success are AWESOME. A few minor changes have occured in my life. I am learning to be me, to be comfortable in my own skin. Security Blankets should be illegal for 23 year olds. Im gonna try and blog more.. its actually a sweet release .. (Especially with Midterms over)..